Wow well didn’t Christmas sneak around quick this year! It only seems five minutes since I was in the first throws of wedding planning feeling very smug at my extensive spreadsheets and all the time I had to get everything done, yet all of a sudden is nearly the anniversary of our engagement, my house is bursting at the seams with Christmas presents and wedding paraphernalia and I’m counting down the weekends for finalising food, flowers and the finer details. Not to mention the limited time I have for reducing the size of my rear, which is a nearly impossible task when faced with all the festive treats and copious amounts of alcohol that is mandatory this time of year! Now this is not a normally dieting bride, but being blessed with hips, bum and an appetite to rival Nigella Lawson I have a compulsory 3inch’s too loose from my bottom to fit in my designer frock which doesn’t cater for those of us with ‘English Rose’ proportions. It is this that has seen me returning to my childhood hobbies of netball and swimming and (to my horror) currently contemplating joining a running club! Thankfully the dark evenings and lack of streetlights on my road are keeping this insanity at bay for the time being but I think that new year’s resolutions and the fear of half the church seeing me in my undies as my dress bursts at the seams may see me red faced and crawling down the pavement before the last chorus of Auld Lang Syne.
In truth I have found the whole wedding dress experience far from the expectations that most of us girls have growing up, dreaming of the ‘princess dress’ and the day with your Bridesmaids and Mum sipping champagne and cooing at the mountains of lace and tulle, with an odd tear and cries of ‘oh yes that’s the one’! In reality I have trailed from shop to shop trying to find a dress that I even half liked that I could quite simply; just try on and not have to be squeezed and pulled into for 20minutes only to result in the hem line a foot off the floor, half the dress folded over and the shop assistant trying to hold the back together so I could ‘get an idea of what it looks like’!! Now don’t get me wrong I am not quite queen Kong but at 5ft 11 and a size 14/16 it has been quite a feat to find ‘the one’ when most sample sizes have been a 10/12 and ‘designer’ proportions coming up much smaller than the high-street sizing. The process has seen me burst into tears in one shop and almost having a nervous breakdown in Newmarket Waitrose, on the hottest day of the year (with a birthday hangover ssshh) after dragging my mum round most wedding shops in the county only to find I couldn’t try on any of the dresses I liked and being asked if I had considered losing weight and coming back or just holding it in front of myself in the mirror! I have eventually ordered my dress from a fantastic shop in Sheffield called Emily’s who have been fantastic and I must say I am thrilled to have my dress coming from my neck of the woods when the rest of the wedding is thoroughly Cambridge. But it has left me wondering if I have just been incredible unlucky or if the wedding dress industry is missing a few tricks, with the average price tag heading up to £1000 a girl wants to feel amazing and beautiful not squeeze, squashed and spilling out! Get some real sizes for real women!
This week I have been finalising our wedding invitation stationary, save the dates were sent out earlier in the year as with the date being 1st June it has been popular with others getting married so we wanted to bagsie all the good guests before they were snapped up ? We have now signed off the day and evening invitation proofs and they have been sent to print. The idea being that we send them out with Christmas cards to save on postage, however on second thought we all get so much post this time of year with even the local takeaways cashing in and sending Christmas cards that I think the invite might get somewhat over shadowed so instead I think they might be a more welcome arrival in the New Year.
After a recent episode of ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’ it stuck in my mind firstly never to let a man try to organise anything and secondly that the invitation is to the guest, their first impression of the wedding and an inclination of what to expect, often giving away the theme/colour scheme of the day and style of the wedding party. As I mentioned on my first blog we have gone for a ‘Vintage Country’ themed wedding with the boys wearing tweed rather than morning suits. With this in mind I was conscious that I wanted to have some consistency and for the theme of the day to be clear to the reader inviting them to join in rather than us to go to all the effort of a country themed wedding party only to have 150 guests turn up in tropical flower print dresses and sharp suits and for that to all be lost. The company we used Inthetreehouse have been wonderful, tweaking and changing their designs so that it matched with my ideas, and they have great free printables that you can download from bunting and decorations to photo booth style props and quizzes for the tables for a few giggles for the guests. I can’t wait for them to arrive, and while being less excited to chase all the RSVP’s and revise the table plans for those that can’t come; it is great to see things finally coming together after all the preliminary plans.