So now I had my dress, my photographer, and my venue – the BIG 3 for me – so all done then right?
Sadly, not! It turns out there are a few other things to sort out too! Well, I had always said that the flowers and the cake weren’t important so I just forgot about those for a while – not a big flower person and I don’t like cake so who needed them?! But, I guess the next thing that I needed were some guests…so I needed to write ‘THE LIST’ – and, yes, it has always felt like that has to be written in capitals, preferably with some dramatic opera music playing every time it is spoken of! This was something I was worried about – I am an only child, therefore it’s the only wedding of a child that my mum will have, plus we have a very big group of family and family friends who are pretty much all wonderful and I would NEVER want to offend, nor, actually, not want there – and that’s before you even get started on MY friends, and Tom’s side of things too!
Here, I have to admit, things have gotten a little out of hand. Tom and I originally planned a smaller, more intimate, ceremony, with more guests coming later in the evening. The greatest reason for this was my fear of my inherent clumsiness rearing its ugly head at some point, but also the fact that I am pretty self-conscious and the thought of being the focus of attention for a tonne of people was pretty terrifying!
However, this was not quite how it worked out – my mum wasn’t happy with the idea of having separate people coming later on and, I do see her point – firstly it does feel a little like an afterthought and, secondly, it adds a level of stress in that you have to keep to time so that you are not still eating or doing speeches when the evening guests arrive (how embarrassing!). So that was the first decision…but then the list just kept getting longer…and longer….and now I have 120 people watching me get married! Not going to pretend that doesn’t scare the bejeezus out of me but they ARE all people I know and love so I am just trying to have that as my mantra when I get the heart palpitations!
So now I had ‘THE LIST’ drawn up – I just needed some of those invitation-type-things! Here, I have been blessed – Tom’s family are the most creative people that I have ever met – the menfolk and their talents will come in to this later, but Tom’s mum is SO artistic she blows me away – she can make something beautiful from ANYTHING. And she WANTED to make my invitations – I could not believe my luck – and, having since seen the finished product, she even exceeded my expectations – they are the most beautiful invitations that I have ever seen ?